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Self Defense and Defending Others

“A lot of times people look at the negative side of what they feel they CAN'T do. I always look on the positive side of what I CAN do.” ---Chuck Norris

Avoid the Attack

Prevent compromising situations and being targeted as a victim

Avoid the Fight

When targeted or confronted

Win the Fight or Attack and Flee

Fight Attitude; Basic Self-Defense; Advanced Self-Defense

Women and Children

Targeted by the worst type of predators. Learn how not to be a victim!

Self Defense Weapons

Lethal and non-lethal force used for Self-Defense; Self Defense for weapons

Avoid the Attack

Notice your Environment and People around you

  • Step one in avoiding risky situations and suspicious people is being aware of your surroundings
  • Head down, earphones on, and focused on your phone or personal items makes you more susceptible to attack
  • Travel and park in well lit and populated areas. If the surroundings are sketchy, obtain an escort or travel in pairs when possible
  • Wear appropriate clothing/dress for the area you are in
  • When walking to a car or residence, have your keys out and ready. Check for anything out of the ordinary in and around your vehicle or residence
  • Don't flash cash or expensive items

Don’t look like the Victim

Project confidence and the state of being alert. Criminals look to take victims by surprise and attack those that appear weak. Someone with confidence might fight back, and attackers want to avoid that.

  • Head Up & Shoulders Back (projects confidence and allows you to see surroundings)
  • Purposeful Confident Stride (not too short nor too long, with arms swinging naturally)
  • Eye Contact (casually and briefly meet the gaze of others; if someone appears to be following you, casually turn around and make eye contact)
  • Calm, Cool and Collected: avoid mannerisms that appear anxious (nervously darting eyes, quick and nervous/tense walk, hands in pockets, fidgeting with personal items)
  • Keep Your Wits About You: don't venture out alone while intoxicated
  • Visualize and Practice what you will do and how you will act in a compromised position before it happens. This will increase your confidence and make all the difference when it matters!

Trust your Gut Instict

If things don’t feel right, trust your intuition and change your situation. Don't second guess yourself. 

Avoid the Fight

Control your Emotions

  • Don’t allow others the power to dictate anger, fear, or hate
    • If somebody bumps into you, keep your cool. If you bump into somebody, apologize.
    • When others honk their horn or flip you off, choose not to
    • At the same time, present yourself as confident, and willing and able to protect yourself when you need to   

Be Nice to Girls, Kids, Elderly and Handicapped

  • If you are offending our most "vulnerable," you deserve to get your ass kicked 
  • At the same time, anyone within that category should know how to protect themselves and can learn to be some of the most equipped to do it

Know what Attackers Fear

  1. Getting Hurt
  2. Getting Caught 

Knowing this alone can put you in a more powerful position. The following headings are focused around these two truths.

Convey Confidence and Think Powerful

  • Alert and deliberate in your movements; eye contact and strong posture (head up, shoulders back, stand tall) 
  • Whether or not your believe it, act like you are Powerful. This alone will make your potential attacker question wanting to attack 

Maintain Space and Draw Attention

  • Hands up and in front (non threatening but ready); don’t turn your back; be aware of others around you 
  • Use your "outside voice" and draw attention to the situation
    • "Back off! I don't want to fight!"
    • "He's got a knife!"
    • "No! Stop! This man is bothering me!
    • "I'm being Attacked! Call 9-1-1!"

Some Things are Worth Fighting For

Although avoiding the fight should be a primary goal for all of us, it is also important to acknowledge that some things are worth fighting for.  If you stop, think, and reflect, deep down every one of us knows what that is. Potential harm to another who cannot help themselves is an example of when you may have to fight, despite your ability to personally escape the situation.  

Win the Fight or Attack and Flee

Fight Attitude - Preparing your Mind is most important survival tool

  • Don't hesitate, Act! 
  • In a Street Fight or Attack, there are no rules
  • Do not stop until the threat is neutralized or there is space to flee 
  • Once the attacker is neutralized, stop and distance yourself from the situation
  • Visualize what you will do in self defense situations
  • Know what your fighting for
  • Strengthen your internal monologue and mentality through exercises

Basic Self Defense

The focus will be Krav Maga fighting styles, which are based off of fine-tuning natural instinct and following a few principals that can be applied in many situations. Krav Maga is aggressive and is proven in street and military fighting. Basic Self-Defense Includes the following:

  • Stance
  • Movement
  • Striking
  • Chokes
  • Knocked to the ground

Advanced Self Defense

Criminals attack when they feel they have an advantage. The following are scenarios that you should be prepared for should they occur:

  • Multiple Attackers
  • Weapons (knife, gun, club)
  • Home Intruder
  • Third Party Protection

Self Defense for Women

Avoid the Attack and Survivor Mentality

The majority of attacks can be avoided with a few simple steps. Ensure to read and review Avoid the Attack above

Please also take time to review Know what Attackers Fear, Convey Confidence and Think Powerful, and Maintain Space and Draw Attention under the Avoid the Fight section

Preparing your Mind is most important survival tool. Click below to learn more about Survivor Mentality

Those at Greatest Risk - Sexual Assault Statistics from Campus Safety

  • College age women are at greatest risk with 84% of the sexual assaults and unwelcomed sexual coercion occurring within the first 4 semesters
  • Victims were on a date with 13% of rapes and 35% of attempted rapes that occurred
  • 1 in 5 high school females report being physically or sexually abused by a dating partner
  • 90% of acquaintance rapes involve alcohol
  • 38% of college-aged victims assaulted in college, were victims prior to attending college
  • Students in sorority houses are 3 times more likely to be raped than those living off campus. Those in on-campus dormitories are 1 1/2 times as likely to be sexually assaulted

Things you Need to Know

  • NEVER leave your drink or food unattended. Date rape drugs are often used to incapacitate a victim.  Important to note, bar tenders and bouncers are not necessarily your friends and could be in on targeting victims. Click HERE for more information.
  • When you go "out," go with Good Friends, not acquaintances or others that may cause you to find yourself in a compromised position. 
  • You are more likely to let your guard down with familiar people. 70% of women attacked, recognized their attacker. DON'T LET YOUR GUARD DOWN
  • The parking lot is the most common place for an assault. Be aware of your surroundings. Give your self space to react around "blind" corners or vehicles. Have your keys in hand when approaching your car. Obtain an escort when in dark or remote areas and when experiencing uneasy feelings. Check inside your vehicle before leaving.
  • The element of surprise and tactics requesting help or assistance are both commonly used to size up and attack a victim. Be fully aware of surroundings. Accept that NOT helping or stopping to answer a question is not rude. It may be vital in keeping you safe. 
  • Police Impersonation: Be aware, especially at night and when in remote areas. If in doubt, dial 911 to verify police presence. If in a remote area, turn the inside light on in the cab to acknowledge the officer and drive to an area where others are present. Only roll down the window an inch or two to allow transfer of information. Click HERE for more tips for women driving alone.
  • Concerned your being followed? Take four right hand turns or get off and on the freeway to verify being followed. Call 9-1-1 and go to a public place. 
  • When having work done by a contractor, have someone else present or at least notify others of work being done and by who. Verify licences and credentials. Search contractors on the BBB website.

A useful source with real-world advice and scenarios that compiles a lot of the information discussed in greater detail can be found in The New Super Power for Women.

Self Defense Tactics

  • If you have a chance to get away from a bad situation by running, RUN
  • Draw Attention to the situation. Even if threatened to be quiet, alert others to whats going on.  "Help me! He's attacking me! Call 9-1-1!"
  • Always Fight Back. Move, twist, kick, hit and bite when necissary. The groin, throat, face and eyes are all vulnerable targets. Continue to face your attacker versus giving them your back, which could put you in a more difficult self defense situation. Your best opportunity to fight and draw attention to the sitation is right when the attack begins. Never submit to being taken to a second location. See Self Defense Videos comming soon!.
  • When your arm is grabbed, create a "live hand" with fingers spread wide, thrust your arm towards the gap between the thumb and fingers (the weakest part of his grip) to free your arm and flee.  When pulled towards the attacker, use that force to increase the power of your strike with the opposite hand, elbow or knee to vulnerable targets. - Video Coming Soon!
  • If an attacker grabs your legs, kick your legs in a circular motion towards the attacker's thumbs. If that doesn't work, rotate your entire body and legs similar to the alligator death roll. If one leg is grabbed, use the other to kick the attacker in vulnerable targets.  With both legs free, use a bicycle kick to cause pain and create more distance- Video Coming Soon!
  • When the attacker is in the guard (between both legs and in the rape position), strike to vulnerable targets (neck, face, groin). Slam one foot down, falling to the opposite side, thrusting your butt away from the attacker.  With space created, place the foot of the side you are on to the attackers hip to maintain space.  Fall to your back, still with your foot on the attacker's hip and use the opposite foot to kick the attacker, eventually turning that kick into a bicycle kick with both feet, until the attacker falls back and you are able to get to your feet. - Video Coming Soon!
  • When being lifted, drop your weight to make yourself as heavy as possible. If needed, fall to your back and use bicycle kicks to create space.  When lifted, wrap one foot around the attackers leg. Use the other foot to "chicken kick" (back kick with your heal) the attacker's groin until he lets go - Video Coming Soon!
  • When the attacker is in "mount" (sitting on your hips, stomach or chest) use your elbows to push his knees down towards your hips.  Strike to the groin. Raise both legs and slam them to the ground, thrusting the attacker upwards.  Use the space created to turn to one side. With elbows pushing his knees down, bring your knee and elbow closest to the ground together to "pass" his leg (half guard).  Strike the attacker and slam the leg down that is outside his leg. Thrust your butt and lower body away from the attacker to free both legs. Transition into a bicycle kick - Video Coming Soon!
  • See additional videos for chokes

Self Defense Weapons

Gun Perspective

Firearms are an incredibly useful tool in defending yourself and others. Too often fear is used by people with an agenda, from those seeking power, or from people uneducated on all sides of the topic.  It all comes down to Education, Training, Respect for the firearm and Personal Responsibility. 

Gun Defense

Coming Soon!

Knives for Protection

Coming Soon!

Knife Defense

Coming Soon!

Non-Lethal Self Defense Weapons

Coming Soon!


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