The person who strikes first and who does it decisively has a clear advantage.
Do everything you need to do to survive. This concept often takes time to come to grips with because most people are raised to be nice, kind to others and fight "fair," but this can also be the difference between going home and significant bodily harm. When attacked, an aggressive and determined mentality will often be what determines the outcome.
Too often the upper hand is lost by stopping and allowing the attacker to recover, or by choosing to stay around when there is an opportunity to leave the situation. At the same time, once the attacker is neutralized, stop and distance yourself from the situation.
You deserve to come home safe and unharmed; so does your spouse, your children, and innocent people who cannot protect their own self. Internalize why you may have to be aggressive and vicious, so when the moment comes, you won't hesitate when there is no other option.
"Control your Brain, Control your Life"
Exercises to strengthen your Survivor Mentality
Practice Positive Outlook or Neutral Mindset: Be deliberate about a "can-do attitude" in everyday life, or at least eliminate verbalizing negative thoughts and attitudes. Be conscious about what CAN be accomplished versus what you cannot do.
Grow you Mental Toughness: Practice stepping out of your comfort zone. Be deliberate about setting goals, accomplishing new things and recognizing those accomplishments each day.
Be conscious about your worth and the reason you have for living. Recognize 3-5 things you love about yourself every morning. Recognize what accomplishments you're proud of each day. Recognize 3-5 things you are grateful for before laying down to bed. Recognition of your worth and/or devotion to something greater than yourself, like a life purpose or God is often the difference found in those who do survive. Being conscious about gratitude transforms the world you live in.
Overcome Guilt: NO MEANS NO. It does not matter what someone else did for you. It does not matter what situation you willingly put yourself into. You have the right to determine what you do and what happens to your body at ANY moment.
Avoid But: "I would fight back, but..." "I would say no, but..." Your best chance to fight back and survive is now. You have the right to change what you do at ANY moment.
Practice and Visualize: There is no substitute for self-defense and mental training. There are great professional resources, but sometimes that is not a possibility. Visualize possible scenarios and what you would do in each situation. Practice techniques with a friend to bring the mental training to physical realization of the skills that will help. For real-world self-defense, I prefer Krav Maga that is tailored to real life self-defense situations with concepts and principles that can be learned quickly. Many other self-defense practices focus on sport fighting, where there are rules and generally just one similar sized opponent. Unfortunately, life survival situations are not that fair. To share great self-defense programs or to hear about strong programs within the Phoenix Valley, send us a message!
Strengthen your internal monologue and mentality through exercises:
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Additional insight around breaking a helpless mindset can be found at The Other Side of Helplessness